tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post7690830942437478698..comments2023-06-06T10:48:55.690-04:00Comments on little love life: time for a little honestyjenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13532153698301622569noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-47096247338462190092012-01-13T16:47:10.915-05:002012-01-13T16:47:10.915-05:00the extent of the phobia (and what thoughts i have...the extent of the phobia (and what thoughts i have, etc) is what i was referring to. but i do understand what you're saying and i appreciate that :)jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13532153698301622569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-72676306534806014042012-01-13T16:35:49.959-05:002012-01-13T16:35:49.959-05:00I gathered from what you wrote that it was more se...I gathered from what you wrote that it was more severe than "just anxiety," but I still don't think it's anything to be ashamed of... <br /><br /> I do, however, understand, how you might feel shame and you're allowed to feel that. I guess I'm just trying to say that you don't have to... That it's okay to be where you are at present. To be dealing with hard things. To be struggling with hard things. <br /><br />Sorry if I'm not making any sense.The Dandelion Girlhttp://www.thedandeliongirl.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-72596121152657548542012-01-13T15:19:49.971-05:002012-01-13T15:19:49.971-05:00thank you calla :) im sure your 'rambling'...thank you calla :) im sure your 'rambling' would make sense to me though, i often think im making sense and i realise that no one gets me. so i appreciate this. and apple oats, yes that sounds like a good idea, like adding it on top. i might try that! xoxjenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13532153698301622569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-49769834422985964802012-01-13T15:18:33.762-05:002012-01-13T15:18:33.762-05:00aha that's okay, i didn't put a lot though...aha that's okay, i didn't put a lot though. i am used to putting banana (cooking with it) in oats so maybe im just accustomed to that flavour? it doesn't make it sweet all the way through (like adding a sweetener does) but its yummm :P xoxjenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13532153698301622569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-40294190243774670802012-01-13T15:16:53.762-05:002012-01-13T15:16:53.762-05:00well, mine isn't just anxiety. it's a bit ...well, mine isn't just anxiety. it's a bit obvious (at least for my family) that the issues are more severe, and you can tell. plus the phobia and habits are not common like other anxiety issues. but i know that other people do suffer from their own kind of pain, so i'm trying to realise that, yet i also need to except that what i'm doing is not okay. thank you so much for this though xoxjenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13532153698301622569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-58506404270424092582012-01-13T15:15:34.962-05:002012-01-13T15:15:34.962-05:00:) it does help, a lot :D thank you xox:) it does help, a lot :D thank you xoxjenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13532153698301622569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-13937205753143972652012-01-13T12:00:24.620-05:002012-01-13T12:00:24.620-05:00Jen, sharing this on your blog, should be anything...Jen, sharing this on your blog, should be anything to be ashamed of, may I just point out, its YOUR blog, therefore you are entitled to say anything you wish, its up to other people whether they read the content or not, and sometimes its so good to write how you truly feel down, because there could be people who relate to you, and it feels like you are less alone. <br />Like Mitri said your fears sound like fearing illness, which is something I strongly struggle with as well, so I want to reassure you, that you are not the only one, there are other people out there who feel just the same as you do, except alot of the time they do not speak about it, for fear of being judged. So I think its great that you have openly spoke about it, and it takes alot of courage to do that, and you should be really proud of yourself. <br />I mean Im not a doctor but what helped me alot was to go on medication, I usually hate taking medication, but there are a life saver for me, to live my life without those physical feelings you get from anxiety, because for me, I was so anxious that I felt like I was dying which made me anxious even more, so take away the physical symptoms and I feel alot more relaxed and im not able to rationalize those irrational thought processes you get. <br /><br />I hope this kind of helps ;/ <br /><br />Sending you massive hugs <br />J xxx<br />I can totally relate to you with regards to your anxiety, and I was having constant fears, and alongside came physical symptoms which only accentuated my anxieties.Honeybunches of lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10100951058096294698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-32426774200464019162012-01-13T11:59:54.523-05:002012-01-13T11:59:54.523-05:00There was a period of time when the only thing I&#...There was a period of time when the only thing I'd eat was oatmeal... I can tell you that if you don't mind BAKED apples, they taste remarkably yummy in oatmeal. When you bake apples its like they create this glaze/juice... that is sweet.<br /><br />Also, I'm not sure why you're embarrassed by that? I think a LOT of people have high anxiety... If this tells you something... I have an eating disorder but am not afraid of gaining weight (I want to)... yet have a huge issue doing so, because of anxiety... anxiety from stuff as simple as having a "full" day or choosing what to eat.<br /><br />I found out this past week that my brother-in-law has high anxiety too.... I think it's just that we as a society do NOT talk about it... so we feel alone in it.<br /><br />You're not alone...The Dandelion Girlhttp://www.thedandeliongirl.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-42972624264184147722012-01-13T03:08:16.860-05:002012-01-13T03:08:16.860-05:00oh derp you had already mixed in golden raisins.
i...oh derp you had already mixed in golden raisins.<br />i can read, really, i can!sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17600633602806010667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-1062266268950047892012-01-13T03:06:32.392-05:002012-01-13T03:06:32.392-05:00Hey, it is okay. I suffer from an ED, too, but tha...Hey, it is okay. I suffer from an ED, too, but that doesn't mean I'm a failure, and that goes the same for you. The very fact that you have posted about it, admitted you are struggling, is the first step to beating this demon. Age doesn't matter in a situation like this; you becoming healthy is.<br /><br />Don't feel afraid to post this sort of thing on your blog. This is where you post what you want to, not what you feel you have to. <br /><br />Think about this, one day you will be recovered. It will be amazing. But don't forget the journey, because that's one of the most important parts.<br /><br />I hope you will be okay. You will pull through no matter what. If you can think to yourself: "Okay, I can do this. One step at a time, and one day I will be all right."<br /><br />Just hold on, and you will make it. You deserve it. :)<br /><br />P.S have you tried mixing dried fruit, like raisins or sultanas, with the apple in the porridge?sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17600633602806010667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-20736622980187523552012-01-12T23:23:41.327-05:002012-01-12T23:23:41.327-05:00I’m glad you were so honest… I wish I knew somethi...I’m glad you were so honest… I wish I knew something helpful to say exactly, but I understand a bit of where you are coming from. I’m twenty two as well… and feel completely lost and compared to everyone else I know my age… way behind and it’s frustrating because I get it all the time from people that life is hard and I know that… but for some reason I’m experiencing it on a completely different level… if that makes sense. I could probably ramble on more about anxiety, phobias and fears but I’m not sure if I’d every make much sense out of it. <br />On a more positive note… I love apple oats! I know exactly what you mean about apples losing their sweetness when cooked so my solution has been to not cook the apples in with the oats, usually I just put a bit of the apple at the bottom of the bowl before I put the oats on top and then apple pieces on top of the oats so that they still have their flavor. Hopefully that helps.<br />Take care Jen, you’re not alone in this and definitely not a wacko. xxxCallahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01478159761095031574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-72467196889003672482012-01-12T22:22:40.822-05:002012-01-12T22:22:40.822-05:00oh my god my reply just deleted. and it was long :...oh my god my reply just deleted. and it was long :/ ohh well. but thank you so much for this :) i know other people with the same fears, so in that sense i know that im not totally alone, but its always unique to each person. like theres a forum online, and i used to go there and post like crazy becuase i was frekaing out all the time. and it wasn't great, i mean i try not to go on there. your boyfriend's friend, ah the pickle thing sounds exactly like what i would do, seriously :) im so glad you had a good meeting though! i hope it turns out well, but i'm sure it will. ive had that before, but lately it doesn't go away, like the panic is almost constant. for washing its not like i randomly do it, its after coming inside, before eating and preparing, after washroom, in between food preps but i guess its more than i used to since my hands are not looking good. and yes, cream! i need to cream more, i have a lot and it helps but ultimately its just cutting back that will make them heal a bit i think. im rambling though, but i really appreciate this :) xoxjenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13532153698301622569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3373928690208680151.post-11048045055331583122012-01-12T21:37:05.016-05:002012-01-12T21:37:05.016-05:00I'm really glad you shared this with us. It i...I'm really glad you shared this with us. It is nothing to be ashamed of, or to fear. I believe nothing in the human condition is impossible to overcome, and by overcoming I don't mean "all wonderfully rainbows & glitter cured" but at least reasonably managed.<br /><br />Obviously I'm not a doctor or anything... but to me it sounds like your fears/phobias ABOUT illness, which feel very intense and real to you, are what make you feel physically ill. Then, because you begin to feel physically ill, you become even more afraid. It is a vicious cycle. I know how it feels a little.. for example, the past few days, I was extremely anxious about a very important meeting with a potential boss, something that could greatly benefit my career if I was good enough on my first impression... for 3 days, I felt extremely weak, fatigued. I didn't want to get up from the couch. I began to feel hopeless, like I'd never feel any better. I thought I must be dreadfully ill.<br /><br />The day I went to the meeting, it turned out to be a great success... I was so relieved. I instantly felt lighter, and hopeful. The next day (today) I felt amazingly energetic. I guess you could say my anxiety manifested itself through bodily aches, and that in turn made me feel even more negative about myself.<br /><br />I know that is not quite what you are going through, but I hope you see you are not completely alone.<br /><br />I also know a friend of my boyfriend, and he is EXTREMELY wary of germs/illness. He will not come over if either of us are slightly under the weather. He brings hand sanitizer everywhere he goes. He covers our toilet seat, though newly cleaned, with layers of toilet paper so he does not have to touch a single thing. He washes his hands all the time. He will not share food with anyone, not even his wife. (Once, he took a pickle off his hamburger and set it down on his plate. His wife wanted to eat the pickle and reached for it. He freaked out and told her not to because "she would get sick.")<br /><br />He does all this stuff because he is obsessed with avoiding germs. Do my bf and I think he's crazy? No. Everyone's got their own things to deal with. We wouldn't think you are "crazy" either!<br /><br />As for your dry hands... I have a lot of new, unopened Burt's Bees products like hand lotion. :) Perhaps I could send you some!Mitrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14205342136285602483noreply@blogger.com